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You can only give away what you have.
Well, that certainly makes sense: how can you give something away when you don’t have it? My thoughts today are not so much on what we have but on what we are giving away. And how, in what you give away, there is a big clue about what you have going on inside of you. Actually, it gives evidence of how you feel about yourself. What you give away is a reflection on you, not another person or a situation. Think about how you respond to different situations and people as you go through the day….. Do you tend to be impatient, frustrated and abrupt? Are you demanding and intolerant? Or are you calm, responding with empathy and understanding, patient and accommodating of others? Of course, there are many variations between these two states of being. Which of the two extremes would you prefer to be? Which of the two extremes would you link to a fulfilled, healthy (in mind and body), mature human being? If you find yourself feeling out of control, constantly stressed, feeling unwell and struggling in your interactions with people, consider investing in a Life Coach. Through Life Coaching, you will have the opportunity to examine you and what is stopping you from being the person you want to be. Litter, jumble, chaos, disorder, disarray, messy, untidy.
I am always shocked at the state of most people’s garages. In my mind, a garage should house vehicles, tools for DIY and gardening and possibly some miscellaneous items that one keeps because it will come in handy. AH-HA – those are them: the miscellaneous things that we just can’t let go off because we will use them some day. So, in they go. Above, next to or underneath the rest of the some-day stuff until eventually you can’t even remember all the some-day stuff that is in there. This means that you end up acquiring a new item when you need it because you have completely forgotten that it is in the garage! What a mess! Eventually it takes a good focused effort and a huge investment of time and discipline to sort out the some-day stuff because they start to take over the place. Actually, I have seen some garages that have their vehicles parked outside because there isn’t enough space due to CLUTTER! You might be wondering what a Life Coaching post has to do with garage jumble! Well, noticing all these garages not being used for their primary purpose led me to compare the tangible clutter in our garages to the intangible clutter in our lives. The main thought is about staying true to our purpose, consciously living a purpose-driven life! The gold to be found in knowing your purpose is that you also know what it is not. How lovely to have that focus! To be in a position to consciously decide if you want to deal with the consequences of doing something misaligned to your purpose or to stay blissfully inside that bit of heaven-on-earth where complete joy and fulfillment is found. When you (as the garage) know that your purpose is to house vehicles and tools, you will also immediately know that anything else is a big no-no. If you decide to let everything else in, you will end up with your vehicles outside, everything else inside and you’ve lost your purpose. And this is where I get to the Life Coaching – specifically Transformational Life Coaching. This is a well thought out series of modules that take you progressively through a process of unfolding self-awareness while teaching you tools and techniques for managing your (self-imposed) limitations. It takes a good focused effort, a time investment and discipline while you sort through the clutter. It results in uncovering your purpose and putting yourself in a position to continue on life’s journey knowing what it is and what it is not. I don’t have words strong enough to convey how unbelievably liberating it is when you consciously live a purpose-driven life. I can only recommend that you sign up for the Program and find out for yourself. Setting a goal is not the same as making a resolution. Making a resolution is about a decision to do, or not to do, something. Resolutions are often made on the spur of the moment, in an emotional state, or under peer pressure, and have little to no assessment of the practical implications of the decision. This explains why a whopping 80% of new year’s resolutions are abandoned by February. In setting a goal, there is also the intent to do, or not do, something. The process of setting a goal however requires logical, practical assessment of current state, desired state and what must be done to move from the one to the other. A SMARTEST goal, a good plan and plain old discipline is the mix for achieving success. Let’s look at how to define the goal first. The following table describes the elements of a SMARTEST goal:  It is key to have a clear picture of what life will be when you achieve you goal – when you write your goal, project yourself to the future date and write the goal in present tense. For example my 2022 goal reads as follows: It is 1 April 2022 and I weigh 55 kilograms. Is it a SMARTEST goal? I believe it is.  Next you need a plan. During planning, you
Below is an example. You will notice that the plan has a good amount of details and that every second milestone, also has how I will reward myself when I achieve that milestone.  And now – you do it! Have a copy of your goal and your plan visible where you can see it every day. Focus on what you want one day at a time until you get there.
There is one important principle though, if you find that you are not achieving your goal – DO NOT change the goal, rather change the plan. |