 Looking for someone that will “complete you” must be the biggest illusion that has ever been sold! To think that we can become whole, complete and fulfilled because of someone else is a recipe for a relationship or friendship to end, most of the time in disaster. Let me explain: according to my friend Google, around 80% of people are growing up and becoming adults who subconsciously live day by day constrained by the belief that life happens to you. This leads to most people living out purpose-less “you should” kind of lives, giving away control of their circumstances and subconsciously living with weaknesses and limitations that they aren’t even aware of. Why? Because that’s just how things are. If I may liken such people to a jigsaw puzzle piece – they have ‘extensions’ and ‘holes’ on all sides of them. The natural tendency is to fill the holes (what we are lacking) and capitalize on the extensions (talents or excesses) by finding someone whose needs can be filled by what we can give ie. our ‘extensions’ but in turn has ‘extensions’ that complements our lack. Quite truly, they say that opposites attract. Voila, you get a completed puzzle! And this is where the story can end …….. as long as the extensions and the holes always stay as they are, we can continue to live purpose-less yet happy lives completing each other. As long as nothing changes. Thing is – we do change. Life happens and through experiences, moments of growth and reaching different levels of maturity, we change. An experience can have such an improving effect on us that where we are lacking is filled. Hmmm, now we no longer have a place for our puzzle partner to fill. This causes misalignment. It causes friction because there isn’t a perfect fit any more. This is also where the story can end ……. we settle for not fitting any more, because of many good rationalizations we continue to live purpose-less yet frustrating lives going with the flow because that’s how it is. Life certainly does not have to be like that. What if you were fulfilled as a complete, holistic person all on your own? What if you took control of your own life, trimmed down the excesses and filled up the lack – to become a perfect circle of self made you. Independent, in control, successful …. purposeful. That’s about you – and yes, through life coaching it can certainly be done. Fill out the form on this website or get hold of me on info@urprofitable.co.za to find out how! Where I am actually going with this is to wrap up my story about looking for someone to complete you – it’s nonsense. What is amazing though, is when you (leading a completely fulfilled purposeful life) find someone else (also leading a completely fulfilled purposeful life), the picture below visualizes the beauty of two whole people sharing their lives together. I don’t think we could wish for a better life! What is pretty cool, is that ME all on my own is living out your best life, consciously taking control of your destiny and living with purpose. Sharing an US with someone as fulfilled as you are is a great bonus.  |